Marriage is defined as the social or legal union between two individuals that emphasizes kinship that’s supposed to mark the highlight of passion and dedication between them. In light of the many hassles and challenges that come with modern society, marriage is gradually losing its meaning and there are some people who have either drifted away, or stopped believing in the traditional roots of marriage.
Aside from that, there are married individuals who simply have no quality time left to give to their respective spouses due to many factors such as tremendous work pressure, loss of interest with the current home environment or lifestyle, obsession with materialistic things (examples: high salaries and bonuses), and more.
It is a fact that in America marriage is a troubled practice of society as proven by several studies and findings, such as the high rate of divorces as well as a growing number of single parents recorded in the last several years. In order to prepare aspiring couples, it is recommended that they take time out and participate in premarital counseling.
Premarital counseling is a meeting between the aspiring couple and a knowledgeable relationship therapist (some of them come from certain churches). And together they discuss many things that deal with getting fully ready not just for the wedding, but for marriage itself with the intention of keeping it intact, meaningful and acceptable to both spouses in the long run.
One solid reason to do counseling is to help the aspiring couple have stronger communication skills. And this involves both spouses to always leave open a window of communication between them so that discussions about their conflicts, the issues that matter in their relationship and reconciliation will be ensured.
Another reason for counseling is to examine their respective expectations of their roles in married life. And this alone covers many issues like who has a career to attend to, who has a share of the financing or household chores, what the shared responsibilities over potential children will be and what should each spouse do to truly help each other out in times of hardship or crisis.
Counseling will also help the aspiring couple to come up with the courage and honesty to take about their relationship goals, which is essential in regards to the very purpose of marriage. For one thing, the early love that the aspiring couple had for each other before should be developed into a dedicated effort of raising a family with true passion driving it. It is also about keeping in mind what kind of family they want to raise in the future, how they can contribute to society’s development, what they hope to achieve in staying together and progressing, etc. To truly get prepared for the life of marriage, participating in premarital counseling is a must.